‘If you are hiring an expensive lady tutor for your child, then do not remain unconcerned while vesting all the responsibility on her shoulders. When the tutor departs, you must check your child’s work. Even if the child finishes his homework before the tutor arrives, must show it to her at least once.’
Poor result of children is not a small problem. Every year you go through the same circumstances on these days. Your child displays his intelligence at home frequently. He also follows your instructions. But during examination days, he suffers from stomach pains and headaches. He tries to avoid high standards of preparation. You think that he is the same child who is very popular among friends. Takes interest in tuition. Remains active in outdoor activities and shopping. Then there is no need to get hopeless from the child. He certainly has the God gifted qualities and he can give better results than the current one. In this context, it has been observed that parents become dejected and during these days they inpose upon the child an expensive tutor. Yes, a child who has obtained lesser grades than the last year, presumes this tutor as a rude officer under whose assistance he can never remain calm.
If you are hiring an expensive lady tutor for your child, then do not remain unconcerned while vesting all the responsibility on her shoulders. When the tutor departs, you must check your child’s work. Even if the child finishes his homework before the tutor arrives, must show it to her at least once. A private tuition means that a serious personality has come to individually pay attention to your child. When a tutor does not find a child taking interest in some subject, he does not apply an injection of awareness. This interest of study comes to a child through a conscious attempt for which the best ethical help can only be provided by the parents. If you are living in a combined family system, then the atmosphere at home will take out the child from this mental crisis. All the children will combinedly gather for studies and an atmosphere for serious studies will develop. Every child will do the homework. But the responsibility of mothers does not end after assembling the children in one room. Mothers must visit this room one by one to pay attention to children’s individual problems. At times mothers are very busy but your priority should be personality of your child. You should neither ignore it not give latitude. At this time if you will continue worrying about dinner and kitchen, the child will find himself lonely. He will pack his books in the bag and will go out to play.
What do you think? If such a thing happens, children start lacking communication and become distant from emotional relations. Then they view the companionship of their parent as divided as well. It is quite possible that after school time, you will try to persuade him to get tuition of some subject in the school’s premises. At this time, a child is so exhausted that he hates every thing in the world. You are doing a wrong thing. This is the time for him to take shower, relax, have food and some sports. You cannot attain the desired results by additionally burdening the child. And this is possible that after the results try to understand his personality with a positive attitude. Manhandling and harsh words are extremely dominating behavior. It is not the solution of the problem as well. Talk to the child in privacy in a separate room. Discuss with him his problems. You must already be aware of a few problems like he faces difficulty in solving mathematics questions. Today you can politely scold him. No one is listening except the child. But calling him rude, incapable, illiterate or a goof will trigger in him the feelings of aggression, grief and anguish or anger and the result would be zero. The child will become rude and give prompt replies.
Discuss issues at night while going to bed : This is a good time. If the child’s grade is very poor and he had not been able to understand you in the morning, then there is a need to remind him before sleeping that: ‘Dear child, I was embarrassed to see your results today. Did not you feel humiliated in front of your friends and teachers?’ There’s no need to talk much. Stay with him in his bed for a while and let him have the emotional satisfaction through the warmth of your care. Make a promise that together we will find the solution for the studies in the next education year. We will hire a good and hard working tutor. Or will not discontinue extracurricular activities or computer but will curtail some time from them for studies. Now motivate your child to sleep for 7 to 8 hours daily and leave him. Children should develop a habit of going to bed early and waking up early in the morning as well. Specially prevent them from indulging into fun till late night on Sundays. If the children are habitual of studying in the night and they do their homework late, then they should have their sleep in the afternoon. In such a case children should sleep for at least 1 to 1½ hours in the afternoon. Once this routine is set, children will remain active and fresh in the evenings as well.
If first priority is the child, then why not his education? : Parents who both are working or remain busy in social activities to great extent, do not understand the reasons for the turmoil in their personal lives. This situation is dangerous. Bringing your children close to you, solving their education problems and preparing them for future competition should be your highest priority. You should develop a habit to personally sit with them to revise their homework or class work. Take help from dictionary.
Time Table: Not only in school, it is also necessary at home also to follow a schedule for different works. You have to make timings for breakfast, lunch, shower, cleaning, and cooking. Observe the same principle for children’s upbringing.
Rewards and Awards: Although today’s children are very smart, however it is your responsibility that whenever a child attains some distinction in monthly tests, or homework …..
